I have never in my life had these. now’s my chance!
(this one’s not mine, FYI)
…and it horrifies me that there are people who are so damned judgmental about fans who like Tori’s post-2000 work as opposed to everything before then. I happen to LOVE her post-2000 work (and yes, I love it more than her earlier work, even tho I love that too) and, quite frankly, don’t give a fuck one way or another as to what people prefer, provided they aren’t the type of people who will go out of their way to leave the EWF community over that preference.
You’re allowed to be sad, but please don’t think that nobody loves you.
Thanks for bringing this up. Gender is an important issue to me, albeit a confusing one. It’s something I’m always figuring out more for myself and which I intend to talk more about both in this kind of forum and in my lyrics.
I think there are ways in which I could be considered gender fluid. I honestly haven’t done tons of learning in this area and I don’t know what the common viewpoints/theories are. But I believe that people should be free to be anything they believe they are, if it’s not hurting others of course. Gender to me is almost entirely anatomical. So much about behaviour and expectation and personal expression is just made up by humans and differs incredibly across cultures and time periods. But I would even avoid the term in a lot of situations because if I really believe that no particular behaviours need to be assigned to particular genders, doesn’t saying “gender fluid” reinforce the idea that they are? When I do things that society has deemed as outside of the expectations of my gender, I’m not doing them because of that. I’m not thinking where along the spectrum I might lie at any given time. I’m just being me.
Another reason why I avoid a lot of gender/sexuality labels is that I’m not a particularly consistent person. The type of people I’m attracted to, the fashion I feel comfortable in, the personality traits that come out in me the strongest - these things can be quite different from day to day, and it was only recently that I accepted that fluidity as a constant rather than just being confused as to why I was never a person who could simply say “I’m this.”
This goes even beyond gender norms - a lot of you have seen the massive range of styles and emotions in my artistic output - and even my closest friends tell me that while they can depend on a certain kind of Andrew at the core, they recognize a million sides of me that come out at different times and don’t exactly know what they’re going to get. I’ve never felt like I entirely know myself or belong anywhere, but I’ve accepted that I have this powerful anchor in music and that everything else in my life will remain a slowly shifting amorphous blob.
Anyway…back to gender specifically…I think you just gotta do you. If labels help that’s great, if they don’t then ditch them. Be accepting that there are a ton of different lifestyles and viewpoints out there, but also figure out what’s important to you and find the people who will support you in living it out.